Posts Tagged ‘loss in the womb’

While there is a lot of literature available to support bereaved parents, there is less so for the survivors of multiple-birth and/or who lose their co-multiple later in life.  Multiples come into the world at the same time, but there is no guarantee they will leave it at the same time. What challenges do survivors face?  Below I have shared some of the existing books which I think are very supportive.  If I have missed any that you think should be added to this list, please let me know.

Twin Loss: A Book for Survivor Twins, by Raymond William Brandt.  Dr. Brandt lost his twin brother when they were 20 years old.  Dr. Brandt began the American organization, Twinless Twins, to support surviving co-multiples, parents, grandparents, healthcare professionals, bereavement counsellors and anyone else needing to learn about the unique twin relationship and the challenges when one dies.  Twinless Twins can be reached at http://www.twinlesstwins.org

The End of The Twins:  A Memoir of Losing a Brother, by Saul Diskin.  Saul lost his twin brother to cancer later in their lives.

Who Moved the Sun?:  A Twin Remembers, by Ron McKenzie.  Ron lost his twin brother, Don when they were 62 years old.

The Lone Twin: Understanding Twin Bereavement and Loss, by Joan Woodward.  Joan lost her twin sister when they were three years old.  In this book, Joan explores not only what her loss means to her, but after working in the multiple-birth field for several years and learning about multiples’ connections, Joan prepared this important and eye-opening book.  This is a must-read book for understanding and comprehension of what it means to lose a co-multiple at any point in life and what the survivor has to face moving on alone.

Living Without Your Twin, by Betty Jean Case.  Betty is a twin, had twin brothers and twin grandchildren.  In this book, Betty explores loss of a twin through death, suicide, murder, adoption and estrangement.  She discusses what it means to lose a twin, separation and reuniting and its challenges.

The Survivor, by Lynne Schulz.  Lynne’s first book was The Diary.  Lynne had boy/girl twins and her daughter, Meghan, did not survive.  Lynne addresses the challenges of raising a survivor of multiple-birth plus some of the challenges that parents can expect to have to face as their survivor navigates their lives without their womb-mate.  Lynne also discusses the challenges for her, as a parent, of loving and bringing up her son while knowing there should have been two children throughout the same journey.



Read Full Post »

There seems to be some confusion about what Womb Twin Survivor means.  The perspective that I work with is an individual who began life as a twin, triplet or more, and their co-multiple, for an unknown reason or reasons, failed to survivor beyond about week 13 gestation.  The survivor(s) of this situation remains a twin or triplet, beyond the womb.  I think we either have or are part of the multiples conceived forever.  The one who died did, in fact, live even if it was just for a little while.

Read Full Post »

I receive quite a few questions and comments around being a womb-twin survivor.  Some are hoaxes, most are genuine.  If you want a comment or reply, please leave a valid e-mail address and I will get back to you as soon as I can.  I waste a lot of time trying to support someone who has left an invalid e-mail address and my reply bounces back.

Unless there is a valid inquiry, please do not expect any feedback.

Best wishes.

Read Full Post »

Loss in utero or the womb has two levels of grief:  One for the parents and probably one for the survivor(s) at some point in time.  From time to time, it happens that a parent may feel that their survivor is responsible for the death of the co-multiple in utero.  One survivor shared that she had a difficult relationship with her mother and when she was in her mid-twenties, her mother ‘lost it’ and screamed at her that she had killed and eaten her twin in the womb.  Such a situation isn’t possible and the loss in the womb isn’t anyone’s fault.  From time to time for no apparent reason a fetus is absorbed (Vanishing Twin Syndrome) or miscarried at some point in the pregnancy.  Neither the survivor or the mother is responsible.  More likely is that one embryo was unhealthy and unable to properly attach itself to the uterine wall to obtain the maternal nutrition it needed to grow and develop as its co-multiple did.  We don’t exactly know why this happens, but it does from time to time.


Read Full Post »

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 3,200 times in 2013. If it were a cable car, it would take about 53 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

Read Full Post »